Yesterday a “friend” of mine called me. She asked for advice on how she is facing problems in talking to people despite being a typical social bird. In two years of lockdown, she completely adapted to online chatting. She decided to only talk to people but not make any friends. Now that her school has opened, she wants someone to talk to during the 7 hours of school. But just like her, others have also closed themselves from the outside world. So naturally she is facing difficulties. She said her self-confidence has gone underground and doesn’t know how to talk to people. If she overcomes her fears, the other person doesn’t talk. She is scared she might offend someone. She doesn’t know what she is doing because her mind is thinking of other scenarios. She said and I quote “I am physically there but not mentally”.
Now, being a typical introvert makes you a professional in handling such matters. I calmed her down by telling her that it’s totally normal. I explained her the whole concept of not having control over others, self-confidence and talking to people. I had to continuously keep in mind that she won’t survive a single day wthout socialising so going by my way wasn’t an option. I had to go her way. Don’t ask me how or what I don’t want to think about it.
She listened to me patiently and then said I can actually be a psychologist. She said I give great advice in a cool manner. I was left speechless. I don’t know what I want to do. The whole psychologist thing was me when I was sane. I recently signed up for a psychology internship but I don’t know if I would be able to complete it. I don’t trust myself in long term academic career. I don’t know if I would be able to persist and last long enough. I trust myself in matters of music. I know I will do something with music. I don’t have any long term plans and I am honestly scared thinking about doing anything! Including music! I know I will manage everything but I don’t trust myself enough. I really need to get a grip and trust myself.
Now let’s drop the song of the day!!
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